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You’ll Know You’re a REAL Adult When You Accept These 25 Truths by Hilary White 8/10/15

I’m a firm believer in tough love. When it comes to figuring things out, I take the “sink or swim” approach, and even if it seems a bit harsh at the time, in the long run it usually means people come out better and stronger for it. There are some valuable life lessons to be learned that are easier pills to swallow than others — here are some brutally honest ones.

  1. Life’s tough. Get a helmet.

Relationships fail, people can be jerks, you can’t always get what you want, and at some point in your life, you will have to stand outside in the pouring rain without an umbrella. Accept the fact that life isn’t always easy, but draw strength from the knowledge that what doesn’t kill you makes you stronger, and the hard stuff makes you appreciate the good things even more.

  1. If you want to play hard, you really do have to work hard.

It’s a trade-off, so deal with it. If it’s any consolation, it’s usually worth it.

  1. If you f*ck up, it’s your responsibility to fix it.

You’re not a kid anymore, and no one is going to run behind you with a broom sweeping up your messes — nor should they. If you make a mistake, it’s your obligation to rectify the mistake. As long as you’re willing to admit it and embrace the consequences as yours and yours alone, then it’s totally within your capabilities to make things right, too.

  1. Your driver’s license photo will never, ever be flattering.

Unwritten law of the universe: Any remotely attractive photo taken of a person getting their license will be secretly and immediately destroyed. The picture will be retaken until the end result is nothing short of cringeworthy.

  1. Sometimes you have to give people the benefit of the doubt.

Some people don’t even always deserve it. And it’s never easy to do. And sometimes you give someone the benefit of the doubt, and it ends up blowing up in your face. But the best thing ever is when you give someone a chance, reserve your judgement, and realize there’s a damn good reason for the way they are. You will definitely learn something more about them in the process, and you will probably figure some stuff out about yourself too.

  1. You have control over your life.

Scary, right? The control you have over what happens to you can be both liberating and utterly terrifying. Do with it what you will — but you are the puppet master of your own play, so make it interesting, make it good, and make it something you can be proud of.

  1. Making compromises is a good thing. Compromising yourself is NOT.

There’s a fine line between changing your mind and changing who you are. Toe it with caution, and remember that nothing is worth compromising your core beliefs, even if it may seem like it will make your life easier at the time.

  1. Success is just about perception.

You (and only you) can determine what success really means, because it differs from person to person. Maybe some days success is just making it out bed, maybe other days it’s parachuting out of plane. You get to decide.

  1. Some people are just big assholes.

And there’s nothing you can do about it, so don’t try. The good news is that the world is also full of really amazing people, too. So hang on to the good ones really tightly, and forget about the rest.

  1. School doesn’t come close to teaching you everything you need to know.

About life, that is. It’s obviously valuable for countless logical reasons — getting a degree, broadening your horizons, teaching you how to fill in a tiny circle by the letters “A, B, C, or D,” etc., etc. Still, it’s just a tip of the iceberg and once you’ve left your 20s behind, it’s easier to place your education in the box where it belongs and continue checking off other ones that aren’t yet complete.

  1. Love isn’t just a feeling, it’s a choice you make.

The older you get, the more complicated your relationships become. It’s easy to fall in love, but it isn’t always easy to stay in the same place you fell. Love is a choice you make every day, to love or not to love, to try or not to try, to work at it or not to work at it.

  1. You can’t help someone who doesn’t want to be helped.

Sometimes you are fighting a losing battle with a person, and the best thing you can is bow out of the situation. As you get older, you get better at knowing when to recognize this and at making the (difficult) choice of just letting go.

  1. Money won’t solve your problems.

Money isn’t magical. It can help with some of the more immediate problems, true, but you have to work through the real sh*t to be happy in life, and those things, more often than not, aren’t money-related.

  1. You are not the center of the universe.

Your problems are real, but they are not the only problems. Everyone lives in their own worlds, but it’s essential to understand and acknowledge all the other worlds around you. It helps keeps things in perspective.

  1. Things are rarely as cool as they seem.

No matter how big people talk, things rarely live up to the hype. But sometimes you have to weed through the mediocre to get to the really good stuff, so never shy away from a new opportunity. Approach new experiences with the expectations of a realist, but the hopes of an idealist.

  1. You can’t make everybody happy.

You can’t make everybody happy, so don’t even try. The harder you to try to please people, the more you forget to focus on your own happiness — and your happiness matters! Be kind, be considerate, but know that not everyone is going to like what you do or say, or even who you are, and that’s totally OK.

  1. Sometimes you have to put yourself first.

Thinking of yourself first isn’t necessarily synonymous with being selfish. Sometimes your immediate needs or wants take precedence over someone else’s — and there’s nothing wrong with that. The key is knowing how to recognize when and where to exercise this luxury.

  1. Jealousy is a huge waste of time.

Someone is always going to have something you want, and you’re always going to have something someone else wants. See the conundrum here? The grass isn’t always greener, and worrying about what could be will drive you insane.

  1. Change is good. Sometimes.

All change is not bad change, even if it’s ridiculously hard at first. Still, don’t feel bad if you hate it, because it’s not always right, and change for the sake of change is not always a good enough reason to make big moves.

  1. You’re not getting any younger.

You’re not getting any younger, and your bucket list isn’t getting any shorter. Start crossing sh*t off, like, now.

  1. Sometimes you just don’t have the answers.

You don’t always know if what you’re doing is right. We’re all just winging it most of the time anyway, so at the very least, it should be a comfort knowing that even if you’re clueless, you’re not alone.

  1. It’s never too late to change.

Though your 20s are arguably the decade you grow and change the most, it doesn’t mean that you are done becoming who you ultimately want to be when you leave them. Nobody’s perfect, and we should all be open to change. If there’s something you don’t like, there’s always time to do what you need to do to get to a place where you really love yourself.

  1. Even if you have “more important” things to do, you NEED to get a good night’s sleep.

Don’t be a hero. You can’t always be that 20-year-old college student cramming for a test, and pulling an all-nighter will probably do more harm than good in the long run. Sleep. The world will not end if you do.

  1. You can’t have it all.

You can have A LOT! You can have amazing things, you can do almost anything, and your life can be what you make it. But you can’t have it ALL — no one can. So aim high, but not so high that you make yourself miserable trying to live up to unattainable expectations.

  1. The only time you should look back is to see just how far you’ve come.

You’re probably doing better than you think you are. When you see analyze things microscopically, you’ll probably find a lot more wrong than if you take a step back, look at the big picture, and see all you’ve accomplished.

Until Next Time…..



I have been trying to come up with something profound to say about our fears this whole week. But some how I just go blank whenever I try to think about it and around Wednesday it just hit me – a real ha-ha! moment while on commute to work in an over loaded taxi cab trying to balance all 30 pounds of my son, 138 pounds of me and two huge bags simultaneously – what really are my fears???

I now dedicate this blog to trying to put words to my fears, to uncover what my greatest fears are and to try to find a way to accept that.

The first thing that came to mind when this thought occurred was my son and my initial thought was that I fear he would grow up to be someone I am not proud of and then almost immediately I realised that’s not entirely true. I would be proud of my son regardless of his personal choices and lifestyle, even if its something I don’t support or like. I would be proud of my son because of his values, how he treats people, his regard for the value of a human life regardless of the status or position of the person.

Then I stopped on that train of thought and began to think well, maybe that’s not really what I fear. But instead what I fear is that he grows up and he is not happy with his life. I want for him to be happy and not feel responsible for anything or anyone -well, not stressed over anything and then I thought, maybe when he get’s married and have kids then he can start being responsible but for now I would be fine if he didn’t want to be responsible not even for me.

I just sank because in all this thinking I started to realise I don’t know what I feared the most.

On Thursday night, my mom, little sister and I decided to watch a movie and we watched The Faults in Our Stars. This just re-opened my thoughts on my fears again and even as I write this I am crying because it was not just for my son any more. My thoughts immediately turned to my aunt who was recently diagnosed with stage 3 cancer and is now undergoing chemo and I cried because I realised my mother is watching her sister die and my cousin, one of my best friends, is watching his mother die and….. I cant stop it.

Then my thoughts turned to my own child and my health situation and even though I am not terminally ill or even remotely sick, there is a good chance within a few years that will change- drastically and I dread having to leave him so young and so innocent. I fear not being there for my child. And not in the overprotective, smothering way- I fear missing him grow up, first day at school, his first crush, his wedding, his children……. I fear not being apart of something I know is just God’s gift to me- I fear not being in his life.

And yes you may ask “so what about before he was born did you not have any fears then?” I don’t know how to answer that question honestly,  because that’s a part of me I don’t think I am ready to share yet.

Until Next Time……

What About Me Pt.2

I had so much fun doing part 1 so here is part 2!!! Enjoy!!

26. FAVORITE SPORTS TO WATCH? Gymnastics-can’t do it; but I love seeing it!

27. HAIR COLOR? Dark Brown

28. EYE COLOR? Brown

29. DO YOU WEAR CONTACTS? No, just glasses lol

30. FAVORITE FOOD? Anything Jamaican

31. SCARY MOVIES OR HAPPY ENDINGS? Happy endings usually with a little inspirational touch.

32. LAST MOVIE YOU WATCHED? Inside Out – one word – Awesome!!

33. WHAT COLOR SHIRT ARE YOU WEARING? Blue and Green (uniform for casual Fridays)

34. SUMMER OR WINTER? I have only known summers (Island Life)

35. HUGS OR KISSES? Hugs. Big Bear Hugs!!!

36. FAVORITE DESSERT? Ice cream and cake



39. WHAT BOOK ARE YOU READING NOW? None, but the last was Pride and Prejudice

40. WHAT IS ON YOUR MOUSE PAD? I don’t have one

41. ANY TATTOOS? No and I don’t plan on any

42. FAVORITE SOUND? Rain Fall and My son’s laugh


44. WHAT IS THE FARTHEST YOU HAVE BEEN FROM HOME IN 2015? About 250 miles (bae’s house)

45. DO YOU HAVE A SPECIAL TALENT? Yes, Several. I Sing, Dance, Draw, Design (clothes and houses) and Cook ….Very Well !!! oh and I Organize (OCD MUCH) 0_o

46. WHERE WERE YOU BORN? Beside the beach St Ann Jamaica the home of Dunn’s River Falls and Bob Marley

47. WHERE ARE YOU LIVING NOW? Moneague- a little more inland and mountain life.

48. WHAT COLOR IS YOUR HOUSE? A earthy brown and peach combo.

49. WHAT COLOR IS YOUR CAR? Don’t have one



So Its completed and I like what I learned or was reminded of about myself except for one thing. I thing I have a legit phobia for getting fat.

Well thanks guys for reading and I hope I get to know something about you too. Leave a comment or email me. I really would love to hear back from you guys.

Until Next Time…

About Me Pt. 1

Just when I thought I have no idea what to post first, the idea hits me – do an “About Me” post. So here is part one of two.

Questions courtesy of http://www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_public_journal_individual.asp?blog_id=5569657

1. WERE YOU NAMED AFTER ANYONE? Yes, I was named after a little girl my mother feel in love with while pregnant with me!

2. WHEN WAS THE LAST TIME YOU CRIED? I don’t remember exactly but about 2 weeks ago.

3. DO YOU LIKE YOUR HANDWRITING? Well I have about three different kinds, I like two of the three.

4. WHAT IS YOUR FAVORITE LUNCH MEAT? Brown Stewed Chicken ( I Live in Jamaica so that’s lunch meat for me)

5. DO YOU HAVE KIDS? Yes a wonderful ball of Energy for a son.


7. DO YOU USE SARCASM A LOT? Is that a question? Sarcasm is my second language


9. WOULD YOU BUNGEE JUMP? I wanted to but I’ve gotten older and more fragile now so not any more



12. DO YOU THINK YOU ARE STRONG? Yes, I would like to think that

13. WHAT IS YOUR FAVORITE ICE CREAM? Rocky Road (mix of vanilla, chocolate syrup, caramel, nuts and cookies)

14. WHAT IS THE FIRST THING YOU NOTICE ABOUT PEOPLE? I notice their …. OMG I just learned something about my self and I don’ think I like it!

15. RED OR PINK? Neither

16. WHAT IS THE LEAST FAVORITE THING ABOUT YOURSELF? I am super talented – a jack of a lot a trades


18. WHAT IS THE SPARK FEATURE THAT HAS HELPED YOU THE MOST? I would think my personality although I could be wrong


20. WHAT WAS THE LAST THING YOU ATE? Cornmeal Porridge

21. WHAT ARE YOU LISTENING TO RIGHT NOW? The hum of my colleague’s fan but music wise I am in love with Colbie Caillat


23. FAVORITE SMELLS? Vanilla and Dragon Lily




Stay tuned for Part 2. This was fun !!!!!!